I am a 23 year old girl who hails from north India, Completed my MBBS at Bombay in Grant medical college.

            I am not biased against my country or society when I say that this is a problem which is faced by India women.. No, if you are born with girly things, I am sure yourself or somebody you know would probably go through similar situations at least once in your life. It doesn’t pertain to region. It pertains to the human mind set. And there is, a loud and definite enmity between girls, no matter however you try to blind against it.

            This is my story. I am not being irrationally rude towards anyone and I am in no way trying to inject any sort of extremist feminism into my words. This is just how I have lived my life with all the difficulties caused by friends or society or anyone in my life.

            I was trapped in so many ways that even in my thoughts I never dare to attempt committing to desires that otherwise come naturally to people.

            For years I have been kept prisoners inside the very loops of petting and pampering just to keep my eyes off the sky and my heart, off what’s desirable. I know women at my age who are moving about like normal humans but with an invisible axe of doing whatever their parents want and marrying ANYBODY continuously hanging over their heads, ready to cut their flight and above all, their idea of love and happiness.

            I know that someone will connect to my story for sure. I am proud of being myself. Hope my story will inspire at least few people for achieving their ambitions in their life.

            Just because I am a girl, people/society made me think about my boundaries. They told me how to dress, how to behave, whom I can meet and where I can go. I just didn’t care of anything or anyone who are having two tongs. One behind you and another ahead you.  I didn’t live in the shadows of people’s judgment. I had my own choices in the light of my own wisdom.

            Don’t let anyone make you believe that the length of your skirt is a measure of your character.

            Yes, people will talk; they have lots of time to waste, so they live in others life as well. They will talk if you fail; they will talk about you whatever you do whether it is a good thing or bad thing. Never listen to them. Never ever worry about ‘log kya kahenge’. At the end of the day, you are the only one who will face the consequences of your actions, so don’t let other people make decisions for you.

            This may be a difficult, difficult world to be a woman. But I believe that it is women like me will change this. It may not be easy, setting own boundaries, making my own choices, rising above people’s judgment.

            But ME!.... I am an example for women everywhere.

            So as we say, prevention is always better than cure. But in order to protect myself, I always forget this thing that rather to restrict myself from saying out what society thinks and taking away my freedom.

            My family is my strength. This is not same for all girls (most of the girls). My Appa(Dad) is my backbone for everything what I have achieved in my life. I had failures in my life in every aspect. But I stood with support of my family. It doesn’t matter whether they were with you or not. If you are willing to make them happy, their soul will be with you forever watching your happiness.

            Every relationship has its own ups and downs. In my teen, I was in a relationship which spoils my life. But I learnt the real meaning of love at that time. The more we care about someone or something, the higher the stakes makes us nervous, anxious. That’s not true love, though. True love arises from being able to completely trust someone and be trustworthy to them in turn over a long period of time. True love is hard to find and takes a long time to grow. There are no short cuts. If we don’t know for sure, and if we are not confident about it, then it’s not true love. You will know at a certain point of time, that they were your soul mates, or they are the one who are going to be part of your life or with this person I am going to find the real meaning of true love.

            I had faced physical and mental harassment in the public. These kinds of problems are faced by maximum number of the girls in this country. I was strong and fought against everything I had faced.

            I came to Bombay, filled up with energy; ready to explore the world, having tons of desires, dreams and aspirations. Everybody struggles to achieve their goals and that is how life is. But I struggled more in this society. It’s not that I am being sexiest and saying others won’t struggle. Society /friends are succeeded in killing my chances but failed in killing my passion to become a doctor.

            In my life there is happiness, there is love, there is hate and there are sorrows. Everything I have tasted. Finally found my true love and my happiness and achieved my dreams as well.

            What I wanted to tell you through my story is, this is your life. You should live your own life. If someone left you in the middle, it doesn’t mean that your life is completed. You should make your life deserves you.

            We are a family of three. I hardly remember my life since I am five years old. We used to live in Kashmir. My father is an Army Doctor and my mother is a love maker. We are a very happy and simple family. My mom and dad were married seven years ago in Bihar. My mom’s family didn’t agree to their marriage due to some religious/caste/region issues which are common. She left her family and married Appa.

Appa lost his family in an accident and he has no bond at all with any of his relatives. So we are a simple family. On every vacation mostly we will go to Bihar where appa had his studies and memories with his parents. It is a beautiful place my appa’s favorite and mine too.

It was first day to my school. My primary learning’s were already done from my mom. So they joined me directly in first class. This was the first time that I am leaving mom and Appa for the whole day. I was crying like hell. I don’t want to go school. I will learn everything at home itself.

I don’t want to go Appa. Please don’t send me away. 

Don’t worry baby. Nothing will happen; I will wait here for you. It is only for 4 hours. After that we can go out and have fun. I will buy you the pretty big doll for you. And mom will make your favorite cake in the evening.

Okay, for now go and get new friends to play with you daily.

Don’t you feel bore, with me and mom, same games same faces. So now make new friends who will play with you daily in the school and at home as well.

No appa, I am not bored with you. Please don’t leave me alone. I won’t go anywhere without you.

He was still trying to convince me,

Baby you are a brave girl and my darling. You should not cry like this. Queen’s wont cry you know. They will make others cry. Try to be like a queen my darling.

Meanwhile a person from the school came towards me. Appa looked at her.

Sir, it’s time for the class. Can I take her into the school.

Appa, kissed on my cheek. Baby, don’t cry. Be brave. I will wait for you here. Come soon darling. Appa loves you a lot.

That person tried to take me out from my Appa’s hands.

I was started crying more and more this time a little bit louder. This time it was clear that I saw tears in my Appa’s eyes as well. This makes my heart melt……..